Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Hand in Hand

Trust and Honesty go hand in hand in a relationship.
If you want to be trusted, you have to be honest. If you trust someone, you would expect for them to be honest with you. It's difficult to trust someone who is never honest. Relationships need trust and therefore need honesty. If you don't have one, you can't have the other.
That's what it is with Eli. I want to trust him, I really do, but how can I trust him if he hides things that I frankly need to know. What am I to do about that? We had a talk about some things last night and I explained to him this obvious connection between the two. He says that I'm not honest about how I'm feeling all the time and that he has to drag things out of me, which he does. My response was simply that I need to keep some things to myself. If I really need to talk to him about it, I'll come to him. I'm also independent and, being so young, don't want to be dependent on someone who, sadly, might not be with me in the future. If I become dependent on him and we were to split, I would have to build myself up again, which many people know is hard to do. To go from sitting on a column to crashed in pieces on the floor.

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